Supporting marriage through thick and thin

As the dismal economic news continues to unfold for the local and state economy and friends and loved ones continue to struggle to find adequate work, the strain and toll upon relationships and marriages rises. There are many things that can come between a husband and wife and cause harm to their marriage, few of them are as obvious as the loss of a job. In recent years, often through no fault of their own, men (primarily) have found themselves left without the ability to provide for their families. In the modern world, a family cannot go long without a steady income without risking the loss of the family home. With pressures such as this, is it any wonder that Christian marriages feel the strain of unemployment?
What do the Scriptures offer us in times of trouble such as this? The first thing that comes to mind is that God considers marriage to be sacred. A solemn pact that cannot be disregarded simply because things have become difficult. Genesis 2:24 reminds us that when two individuals join together in marriage, “they will become one flesh”. That fusion of two lives and purposes into one is designed precisely for the rough and difficult times. It’s an easy matter for two people to continue in marriage when times are flush, when nothing is pushing them apart. When a man and a woman truly need each other the most is when life is treating them the worst. Sadly, too many couples pull away from each other at these moments.
When you see a married couple being tested by unemployment (or any other tragedy or even success), pray for them. Offer them a word of encouragement, be willing to listen. Those who support marriages are doing the work of the Lord. God instituted marriage, but we need to be about the business of helping our friends and loved ones keep them intact.

Tis the Season...

The Christmas season officially started this week with the First Sunday of Advent. According to the retailers and some radio stations, the Christmas season was in full swing before Halloween. What is the purpose to celebrating a Christmas season (in addition to the day of Christmas itself)? Do we really need to prepare for more than a month to properly commemorate the birth of Christ? I’m sure that for many people, the weeks leading up to Christmas (or those prior to Easter) are little different than any other. No particular attention is paid to the approaching date beyond making sure that shopping is done and family gathering are planned. On the other hand, there is a potential benefit to setting aside periods of time each year to reflect upon and prepare for the birth and resurrection of Jesus. During most of the year it is far too easy to let ourselves be defined by the daily routine that we all keep. Too easy to follow the rut that we’re in and not seek any disruptions to our patterns. A Christmas approaches, we have the opportunity to examine our routine, to think about how we spend our time each week, and to reevaluate our priorities in the light of all of those twinkling bulbs. As Christmas approaches this year, allow yourself to step back from you life for a minute and try to see it through fresh eyes. The ultimate break in the routine of humanity was the birth of the God-Man in Bethlehem. God, in his mercy, decided to rescue us from the hopeless path that we were on. In memory of that unexpected twist to human history, see if new paths and habits might improve your ability to have a truly Merry Christmas.

How do I get there from here?

I've never been someone who had trouble figuring out where I should be going. To me, moral choices have always seems pretty clear. I don't claim to have always made the right ones, but I haven't been fooled much by the fog that sometimes blinds people to where the line between right and wrong is. The problem that has plagued me the most in my faith walk (and life) has been trying to figure out how to get where I want to go. There have always been roadblocks (an apt metaphor with all of our road construction projects) that have sent me on detours despite my desire to head straight toward the goal. One of those long trips led me to my wife Nicole, another led me to my ministry at First Baptist of Palo. Now it seems that this new path, toward the Army Chaplain Corp (Reserves), will be a long and winding road as well. At times I just want to wake up and start this new ministry, make a difference, realize my calling. I'll still be walking down this road that leads through Grand Rapids Theological Seminary for the next several years. The question remains, how will Nicole and I make it through the journey? One thing is certain, we'll walk this road together, God has made us one, we don't walk alone anymore. Another thing that seems certain is that God has little detours (some scenic perhaps?) planned for me along the way.
I've spent seven years working an alternative education teacher, a rough stretch of road, all the while hoping to get back on the full-time ministry path. God has been able to use me to work with this troubled teens though, and despite my desire to move on, he has a purpose for me here as well. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11
Indeed, the Lord is good, the Lord knows the path I must travel, the Lord will give me the strength to walk the path he has chosen, and the Lord will make me useful along the way.

The Edge of the Dark Sea

I'm 2/3 of the way through the first quarter in which I've taught "On the Edge of the Dark Sea of Darkness", by Andrew Peterson, to my class of ninth and tenth graders. This book came to my attention last year when my wife Nicole bought it and we read it together. Peterson is a Christian author, a famous singer/songwriter to boot, who wrote a great series that speaks to both kids and adults (I used it in Summer enrichment w/ 3-5th graders, they loved it). This book would be great for any kid to read (no fear of anything objectionable), and it contains solid moral principles of family, duty, and honor sprinkled throughout the narrative. On top of that, it's nuts. Not in the way of something that doesn't make any sense, but rather in the laugh-out-loud sort of way. The 2nd book in the series is, "North, or Be Eaten", the 3rd book will be out in 2011.

The End of the World as we know it?

I was reading an article lately that was discussing the decline at night church attendance. In previous generations, a variety of churches held service both Sunday morning and Sunday evening. It was typically the case that a core group of those who attended the morning service also attended the evening one. It was rare for people to attend only the evening service, and many of those who regularly attended the morning service rarely, if ever, would attend the night service as well. As time passed, some smaller churches began to lose the enthusiasm for this second service and eventually cancelled it. Other churches decided to change the evening service into something different, like a Bible study or a worship service.
In the article, one preacher was lamenting the loss of these traditional second Sunday services as a sign of Apostasy and perhaps a glimpse that the End Times are at hand. Needless to say, I was surprised to see such significance directed toward an issue that many would see as an inevitable conclusion in a society where people are constantly on the go and over-extended with commitments. It is indeed true that Sunday isn’t the “day of rest” that it may have been in the past, and it is true that going to church a second time each Sunday isn’t a priority for many Christians today, but is this truly a sign of the impending crumbling of the American Church? That alarm has been sounded in the past, only to be proven premature. The American Church, like the Church in many nations throughout history, has had its ups and down, has gone through periods of growth and contraction, and has changed in style and appearance while maintaining its overall Gospel mission.
A sign of the End Times? No. Don’t be ridiculous. Not only is that day and hour unknown (and unknowable), but making a change in HOW the Church conducts its Gospel mission equivalent with the Church failing in its calling is a mistake. The Church has changed in the past, it will change in the future. Our mission is to ensure that the Church remains true to its calling no matter when or where it meets.